Ant Ulijn talks about the 3 Keys to Being a Successful Introvert
How do you know if you’re an introvert? It might seem like a strange question but some people think they are just shy and socially awkward when, in fact, they are introverts. Do you prefer to be on your own or in very small groups, say one or two other people?
Does the concept of networking in a room full of people fill you with a dread that verges on a phobia? Are you often internalising things and have a very intense inner world full of emotions and thoughts that you don’t express? These are all signs that you are an introvert.
In the workplace, being an introvert can be challenging to say the least. Work functions, team meetings and socialising at work in general can all cause your anxiety to go through the roof. People may see you as not contributing as much to “the team” or that you don’t seem to “participate” as managers like to say because you don’t necessarily offer your input or opinions as freely Kathy from HR. Truth be told, Kathy could probably stand to use her ears a little more and her mouth a little less in your opinion but again, that’s not something you’re going to blurt out in the middle of team meeting.
Many companies and management teams, unfortunately, value the bigger personalities in the office, not necessarily because they offer more value or contribute more to the business but they tend to motivate others and “rally the troops” so to speak. This is also why Kathy from HR is put in charge of the company social club and the latest fundraising campaign. Never feel like you are not just as valuable because for every Kathy, we need a you. The person who thinks before they speaks, thinks things through and when they do speak, they speak with clarity, purpose and intelligence.
All that aside, what are some things you can do to better position yourself? How do you overcome some of your fears or anxieties and allow people to see what you have to offer more easily? It’s not about becoming someone you are not or behaving in a way that grates against the core of you are. You are an amazing, insightful person and all we need to do is bring some of that out into the light.
So what are the 3 Keys to Being a Successful Introvert?
1. Communication is Key
2. Build Key Relationships
3. Learn to Take a Compliment
If there is one thing as an introvert you hate, it’s attention. So when someone pays you a compliment, especially in front of other people, your first instinct is to blush and maybe even passively dismiss the compliment by pointing out a negative about yourself of the situation.
These 3 Keys to Being a Successful Introvert will not only help you to perform better in your workplace but they will also improve your communication skills, facilitate more quality working relationships and help to relieve some of your anxiety or fears around working with others. Don’t forget that none of these require you to change who you are as person and that is because there is no need to change something so awesome, you just need to let others see the awesome every once in awhile, even if it makes you a little uncomfortable at the time.
P.S. No offence meant to Kathy in HR (if there happens to be one reading this). We love you just as much but for different reasons and we value your input and energy. After all, you’re always the last one standing at Friday night drinks and you’re the one making sure everyone gets home safe. Cheers!